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The Problem When Feelings are Your CompassEMOTION-DIRECTED (BASED) REASONING The vicious loop
“I feel, therefore I am” is the reasoning of the emotionally unstable.
If you never learn that there is indeed a time to dispute your feelings with the reassurance that appropriate truth-coaches provide, your feelings will eventually learn to rule over you, leading to increasing emotional instability.
If a pilot is ever to fly safely in cloud or at night, the first thing he must do is learn to trust the objective reading of his instruments even if they over-rule his own perception. This is about the hardest thing he will ever have to do. (Note the word ‘trust’ and ‘objective’; they are of particular importance here.)
The psycho-dynamic of the emotional reasoner goes like this; “If I feel it, then that’s how it is; my feelings could not misrepresent the situation”.
Unless the hiker, lost in the woods, submits to the direction of the guide, and sides with him /her against his own instincts, the guide cannot over-rule his sovereignty to help him find direction again. He must remain lost until submission over-rules feelings.